"Great love is built on positive emotions, pleasurable rewards and mutual support. While trust is key which is common to friendships, romantic love is basically different in the quality of its emotions, pleasures and mutuality.
I see greatly now the importance of 'friendship' as a very vital foundation in all relationships.. In friendship there is familiarity of another person's personality; the likes, interests, passions, and even goals and plans in life... these things can be found through 'real' friendship... and, in many ways, the recognition of all these things could greatly affect the success of the relationship- "romantic love."
Perhaps, one of the many reasons why love, I mean "romantic relationship" fail to work sometimes is because there is a lack of friendship in it... if you think of love rooted in friendship, you could see more enjoyment and happiness shared together. there would be lesser expectations along the way... both partner will not be burdened with each other's presence... some things will not be dealt with 'too' seriously... there is freedom in the relationship... it is a state where, you will grow together and yet you are not losing your "you" in the process... there will be more understanding and acceptance.. both will discover there self 'fully' without taking the relationship at stake.. it is like growing independently yet together.. :) how nice the relationship could possibly be if it is viewed like this! i think there would be so much excitement because you believe that you will get to experience much of life with that person again. and again.. it will be the "bond" that will strengthen the relationship.. In friendship, there is openness. there will be no stain of pretension because there is acceptance... in that case, each person will not be restrained from whatever emotions... they will be free to be true... :) how wonderful it could be! :) love, should not be dealt with too seriously... it should be viewed as something that keeps you going despite life. it should be your driving force to life - in order to be happy!.. and when you love, spending time together is part and parcel of its success... there must be a sense of 'companionship.' no one is perfect, we are different in our unique ways... therefore, 'understanding' is the key to bridge this somehow 'gap' between two people... again,we all have a choice... it's all in the mind...
Sadly, I realized all these too late... :( had I known? of course, but not that deeply, perhaps.. but, everyone deserves a second chance right?... the next time around, I hope to be better... :) I want to enjoy my life because everything is just so temporary...
there is so much in life...
I believe, someone out there will make it with me!... in time...
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