How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever?
How long will you hide your face from me?
How long must I take counsel in my soul
and have sorrow in my heart all the day?
How long shall my enemy be exalted over me?
Consider and answer me, O Lord my God;
light up my eyes, lest I sleep the sleep of death,
lest my enemy say, "I have prevailed over him,"
lest my foes rejoice because I am shaken.
But I have trusted in your steadfast love;
my heart shall rejoice in your salvation.
I will sing to the Lord,
because he has dealt bountifully with me.
Psalm 13
Sometimes, we get caught up in things we dread no matter how much we try and work not to be in it. We dread rejection. We dread feeling unvalued, unloved. We dread losing people. We dread loneliness. We dread bitterness. So how is that when life knocks you down and despite all your good intentions, still you caught yourself battling things you dread and worst, all at once? The easiest and most default response is to grumble, resent, and harbor bitterness at its finest. It is not easy to feel grateful when all you can see at the moment are your hopes and dreams falling apart. Just when you believe that everything is going right, that everything is happening at the right moment, everything suddenly changes, and while you are still holding it in your hands, the view is getting too blurry already, the grip causes your hands to bleed and you are left with a choice to let it go because reality says, nothing more is right and worth holding on to. Everything shatters and disintegrates right at the palm of your hands. And you grieve. You grieve over the loss. You grieve over the hopes and dreams you have built. You grieve over yourself feeling incompetent. You grieve over not being the right person. You grieve over the possibilities of a good future. You grieve over the good memories. You grieve. And you grieve some more. And you cry.
And then in a heartbeat, you feel God's voice over your situation. You feel His tender voice over your pain through His Word. In His word, And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. Romans 8:28 NLT -you felt God's immeasurable comfort and a steadfast assurance that really nothing happens by chance. Your pain over the loss of something you wanted to treasure forever has a great purpose. But while it is still so difficult to know the reason why for now, you cling to God's love because you know that in Him you are secure. You are secure with the knowledge that you are loved, completely. You long to be loved in that same security from earthly beings. But they just can't and they never will. They fall short. And then you are reminded how foolish it is to expect imperfect people to love you completely, perfectly. Just like you, they also need saving and love that goes beyond understanding. Just like you, they need Jesus. Just like you, they need to be forgiven and loved. Because the ultimate truth is only God can love you and them completely. Really, only God can. And most of all, only God can restore what was broken. Only God can heal your wounds. Only God can satisfy your heart. Only God can. Only if you open your heart to Him willingly, unreservedly.
So what do you do now? What do you do with the pain? Do you take the loss as a failure? Do you feel bitterness in your heart? Will you forgive yourself? or will you keep beating and blaming yourself over the loss?
You acknowledge the pain. Yes, you grieve over the loss, you cry buckets like a lost child in the forest, and it is totally fine. But you don't stay stuck for a long time. You don't grieve for far too long to the point of allowing it to cripple you from becoming the person God wants you to be. Remember, God has a purpose for your pain! You get the lessons and accept your failures. You learn that sometimes things just don't work the way you hope they would. You learn that sometimes, the best way to love a person is to give them space to grow, to allow God to work in their hearts for His glory. You accept the fact that no matter how much you value the relationship and love the person in it, it isn't just enough. You accept that only God love can love them best. You accept that God has amazing plans for them and sometimes, it may mean you not being part of that amazing plan. That hurts and it's okay. Loving is such a humbling experience. Why? Loving makes you humble yourself that really, you cannot hold things in your hand without God and without His approval no matter how much you really wanted it. Loving makes you humble yourself by acknowledging that without Him, you are powerless. Loving makes you humble yourself upon arriving at a conclusion that you need to surrender to God everything. Loving makes you realize that you are not God. Loving makes you realize that you need God, above all else.
So from now on, be an adult, be mature and strong enough to do the right things. Choose to love. How is that? Does that mean, going back? Not necessarily. Choose to forgive. Even when forgiveness is not asked. Do not take resentment and bitterness with you. They will not do any good at all. They will only make you ugly, and of course that's the last thing you want to happen. Enough with the self pity party. That doesn't help either.
What's the best and fastest road to take in healing your broken heart?
Three words. Accept. Forgive. Pray.
Accept that God loves that person more that you love him and God always has the best interest for him and for you as well even if it means not being together.
Accept that only Jesus, his ultimate Lord and savior can help him best walk through his personal struggles.
Accept that Jesus loves you and His love is all you need.
Forgive yourself. In fact, you deserve a tap in the back for doing your best, for giving your best shot, for holding on, for loving, for taking the risk, for putting your heart out there. You are an amazing person.
Forgive that person. He didn't mean to.
Pray. Pray some more. Pray for healing. Pray for love to reside always in your heart. Keep on praying for that person. Choose to seek the highest good for that person. Pray. Pray unceasingly. Jesus loves you! He really do! No questions, no complications, no what ifs and buts. He just do! Fall madly in love with Him. When all is said and done in this temporal world, Jesus is all you got! He will never leave you nor forsake you! Your battle is already won. The lover of your soul, your better-half, your forever, loves you, eternally, unreservedly, perfectly, completely.
And then in a heartbeat, you feel God's voice over your situation. You feel His tender voice over your pain through His Word. In His word, And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. Romans 8:28 NLT -you felt God's immeasurable comfort and a steadfast assurance that really nothing happens by chance. Your pain over the loss of something you wanted to treasure forever has a great purpose. But while it is still so difficult to know the reason why for now, you cling to God's love because you know that in Him you are secure. You are secure with the knowledge that you are loved, completely. You long to be loved in that same security from earthly beings. But they just can't and they never will. They fall short. And then you are reminded how foolish it is to expect imperfect people to love you completely, perfectly. Just like you, they also need saving and love that goes beyond understanding. Just like you, they need Jesus. Just like you, they need to be forgiven and loved. Because the ultimate truth is only God can love you and them completely. Really, only God can. And most of all, only God can restore what was broken. Only God can heal your wounds. Only God can satisfy your heart. Only God can. Only if you open your heart to Him willingly, unreservedly.
So what do you do now? What do you do with the pain? Do you take the loss as a failure? Do you feel bitterness in your heart? Will you forgive yourself? or will you keep beating and blaming yourself over the loss?
You acknowledge the pain. Yes, you grieve over the loss, you cry buckets like a lost child in the forest, and it is totally fine. But you don't stay stuck for a long time. You don't grieve for far too long to the point of allowing it to cripple you from becoming the person God wants you to be. Remember, God has a purpose for your pain! You get the lessons and accept your failures. You learn that sometimes things just don't work the way you hope they would. You learn that sometimes, the best way to love a person is to give them space to grow, to allow God to work in their hearts for His glory. You accept the fact that no matter how much you value the relationship and love the person in it, it isn't just enough. You accept that only God love can love them best. You accept that God has amazing plans for them and sometimes, it may mean you not being part of that amazing plan. That hurts and it's okay. Loving is such a humbling experience. Why? Loving makes you humble yourself that really, you cannot hold things in your hand without God and without His approval no matter how much you really wanted it. Loving makes you humble yourself by acknowledging that without Him, you are powerless. Loving makes you humble yourself upon arriving at a conclusion that you need to surrender to God everything. Loving makes you realize that you are not God. Loving makes you realize that you need God, above all else.
So from now on, be an adult, be mature and strong enough to do the right things. Choose to love. How is that? Does that mean, going back? Not necessarily. Choose to forgive. Even when forgiveness is not asked. Do not take resentment and bitterness with you. They will not do any good at all. They will only make you ugly, and of course that's the last thing you want to happen. Enough with the self pity party. That doesn't help either.
What's the best and fastest road to take in healing your broken heart?
Three words. Accept. Forgive. Pray.
Accept that God loves that person more that you love him and God always has the best interest for him and for you as well even if it means not being together.
Accept that only Jesus, his ultimate Lord and savior can help him best walk through his personal struggles.
Accept that Jesus loves you and His love is all you need.
Forgive yourself. In fact, you deserve a tap in the back for doing your best, for giving your best shot, for holding on, for loving, for taking the risk, for putting your heart out there. You are an amazing person.
Forgive that person. He didn't mean to.
Pray. Pray some more. Pray for healing. Pray for love to reside always in your heart. Keep on praying for that person. Choose to seek the highest good for that person. Pray. Pray unceasingly. Jesus loves you! He really do! No questions, no complications, no what ifs and buts. He just do! Fall madly in love with Him. When all is said and done in this temporal world, Jesus is all you got! He will never leave you nor forsake you! Your battle is already won. The lover of your soul, your better-half, your forever, loves you, eternally, unreservedly, perfectly, completely.
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